Do you see Allison Quets as a kidnapper or a wronged birth mother?
UPDATE: 9/14/07 .... Allison Quets pleads guilty in Raleigh federal court to two charges of international parental kidnapping
I have read a lot on the disease that Allison suffers from. I believe that Allison should not get those children back. If a woman goes through the time and money to get pregnant the way that Allison did and then go 9 months of pain and agony and have the kids then even think of giving those children up, the best interest of those children is to be with a more stable parent and that be the adoptive parents. Also, what I find to be troubling is the first time Allison signed the paperwork, she was under "durress" then called 911. Then got what she wanted THEN RETURNED to sign the same paperwork and that time the adoption was well on its way. I don't believe that Allison is mentally or physically to raise children. Although, there are people that have an altered state of mind and they make that one decision that they later regret, how do we know that won't happen again if she does get those children back?
Just like someone said before, the adoption process is a lengthy process for both the birth mother and the adoptive parents.
As a woman whose had 3 children, post-natal depression is very debilitating and without medication for this malady alone can see you making wrong decisions.
Allison's body was so beaten up by her illness and the birth of her twins by caesarian section must have left her disease a lot worse, also emotionally drained and severely depressed. How can anybody in such a mess, physically and emotionally, make any decisions at all regarding her twins. Just the thought of looking after twins when you have a normal healthy pregnancy with zero problems, is very scary.
Any and all decisions she made straight after the birth of the twins should be annulled immediately because she was not of sound mind and body. The father of the twins had no right to force her hand to give the babies up for adoption in the state she was in.
Having said all this I have only watched the Dr Phil story on this matter and there seems to be little information regarding the adoptive parents on the net, who don't seem keen to speak to the press. So my opinions are based on a one sided view.
I'll be watching this internet page with bated breath to see what the outcome will be for those gorgeous twins. I hope the judge makes a decision that is based on "what's the best deal for those babies" and not legal one. Allison Quets does not belong in prison, she should be in a clinic which will bring her back to health, both physically and mentally.
Liz Watson
After reading all of Allison Quets story and some, I believe she did what she felt she had to do! If I were in her shoes- tricked into giving my children up for adoption- then lied to about getting help- I would have tried to take my kids too.
If we allow these people to continue to "keep" these children just because they have had them for 2 years now is totally insane!! That is like your own child being kidnapped from you and finally finding your child after a couple years and the courts saying, "I am sorry but your child has been with them for 2 years now, the unjust kidnapper should be able to keep the children."
What kind of a country have we turned into- to allow an illegal adoption to follow through & on top of it- allow them to keep them always now "because it is taking so long".
This is completely UNJUST!
I say- keep fighting Allison!! God will see the Just through for you!!
What mother isn't interested in getting her way when it comes to raising her children? Of course she wants her way. I'd cut off limbs to get my daughter back but she died, so I can't. Basically, Quets is metaphorically doing what I can't by sitting in a county jail and fighting to raise her babies.
I come to this with the unique perspective of an adoptive mom. I have seen how hard it is for a birth mother to relinquish her rights. I know there is often regret at doing so. But the adoptive parents didn't steal these kids. They went through a well established legal process where everything is explained to both parties. Quets made a decision, the Needhams made a decision. Quets was given a chance to be a part of the twins lives. That is a true blessing for her, to be able to know these children she agreed she could not parent. By taking them she is the kidnapper. The Needhams did everything right and then went beyond by allowing Quets to be a part of their lives and the lives of THEIR children. The Needhams are the parents. Quets gave the twins life, the Needhams are giving them a life everyday. I have no doubt the Needhams love these children with their whole heart and soul. These are their children. Although my heart goes out to Quets for the pain she is in, she has to move on. She made that decision, she did sign papers and now she says after the Needhams have made a huge emotional commitment "Oh I want a do-over". It doesn't happen that way. She is a kidnapper and the parents, the Needhams have been wronged here.
This is the illness that Allison suffered during her entire pregnancy. You may want to read up on it before making such judgements.
For those wanting to learn more about hyperemesis gravidarum, one resource is the new book Beyond Morning Sickness: Battling Hyperemesis Gravidarum, by Ashli Foshee McCall. There is also a free help pamphlet at the book's web site: http://www.beyondmorningsickness.com.
THEY PRESSURED A VERY ILL WOMAN AND TOOK ADVANTGE OF HER. IT MAKE ME SO MAD. HER GIVING UP THE BABYS WAS THIER IDEA NOT HERS. THEY ARE THE SELFISH ONES NOT THINKING ABOUT THE BABYS. SHE CHANGED HER MIND RIGHT AFTER SHE SIGNED THE PAPERS AND EVEN CALLED 911 OUT OF DESPERATION WANTING THE PAPERS BACK RIGHT AFTER SHE SINGED THEM THEY WOULDNT GIVE THE PAPERS BACK. THEY KNEW SHE DIDNT WANT TO GIVE THEM UP THEY JUST WERE THINKING OF THEMSELVES.
Kidnapper
I agree with the testimony that she is not thinking of the wellbeing of the children, rather she is interested in getting her way.